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When can dating a Russian woman be not worth it for you?
February 18, 2020
Being in a relationship with a
Russian woman would be great if it wasn’t so relatively hard to do. First, you
need to either find a woman in your home country or come to Russia and find a
girlfriend here (both are quite challenging). Then you need to lay the ground
for a lasting relationship. In the end, everything may be ruined quite easily.
You can beat
all the obstacles if you try hard enough. But sometimes it’s just not worth it.
Being persistent is good, but it’s borderline stupid in some situations. Here
are a few examples of when you should drop the idea of dating Russian women.
the obvious challenge of actually finding a girlfriend (which you should do
beforehand, by the way), there are quite a few of them:
Now, you can
guess what any of them imply just by using common sense, but let’s talk about
every one of them one by one and figure out when it’s just too much work to
However admirable dating a person despite all the obstacles can be, you really should mind them. Relationships, unfortunately, are often temporary. If you’ve met a wrong person, they may not even care that you’ve traveled a long distance to be together.
to the obstacles.
difficulties can there be?
geography got in store for you? The thought of where you easily could travel
might have crossed your mind once or twice. For each country, there is a set of
destinations that you can either visit with ease or with difficulties. And it’s
not only about distances or expense.
also consider the infrastructure with which you can get to the place, the visa
regimes, and so on and so forth.
Argentina, for instance. Argentines can easily get to any place in both
Americas, it’s really hard, however, to get to Europe for them. And Russia is
even further to the East. You can’t travel to the West until you reach the
country either, because most of the population lives in the European part of
Russia. You can’t even get from the Southern hemisphere to this country without
making at least one stop on the way.
The real problem
Russia isn’t really a problem for most of the World, it’s only a matter of
comfort, money, and distance. The pickle is that you need to visit Russia on a
regular basis if you want your relationship to last. Or even move to Russia or
persuade a Russian woman you date to move to your country.
But it’s not
like you can make this decision right now at any rate. You need your
relationship to be solid before doing anything of the sort. Before that, you’ll
have to date online, certainly.
For, say, a
Pole, visiting a girlfriend in Russia every couple of months isn’t really a big
deal. But if the location of your habitat isn’t in Europe or the Middle East,
you’ll have a hard time traveling to Russia constantly.
comes from another, and as a bonus to traveling long distances, you may have to
significantly lighten your wallet. Luckily, traveling is pretty much the
biggest expense you’ll need to cover.
Russian woman isn’t very demanding (depends on a person, but usually Russians
aren’t very keen on giving and receiving presents, for instance), especially if
you live in Europe or America, where prices on everything are several times as
big as in Russia. Oh yes, the prices in Russia are pretty low, especially for
such well-developed countries like Britain or the United States.
taxes aren’t very high either, so at least in that aspect, Russia is a pretty
good place to live in. You need to research this stuff for yourself,
Russia has a
culture, obviously. The society that contains the culture is not a very
tolerant or a very liberal one. Of course, the younger generations of Russians
generally don’t abide by these principles, but on average it is as it is.
What do Russian think about their culture
You can sit
and discuss Russian society, its values, and culture for ages, but there’s one
important aspect you’ll need to keep in mind if you want a healthy
relationship. Russians don’t like to have anything imposed on them for no
reason. So, if you want your girlfriend to adapt to your traditional beliefs
and values, you’ll have to be very patient.
adapt to any cultural changes, actually. Unlike your classic European, most
Slavs think their own culture is far superior to any other. Even if a person
doesn’t seem very jingoistic to you, everyone thinks that, at least subconsciously.
But overall, there aren’t really incompatible cultures. So, don’t worry that she won’t be able to adapt to your way of life or whatever.
What language-related problems are there?
It’s no news
that Russian people aren’t terribly bilingual (they don’t like to learn
languages) for some reason. This includes the English language as well. As much
as people there understand the value of knowing this lingua franca, they are in
no hurry to learn this or any other language.
has something to do with the general isolation of most of the Russian regions.
There are 85 provinces in this country, and you’ll only be able to hear the
English speech in 5 or 6 of them. Others are just not enthusiastic at all.
The advantage in the Internet
But you do
have an advantage here. If you know the English language yourself, there’s a
higher chance you’ll meet a Russian woman who speaks the language on the
Internet. So, you’ll have to try dating online anyway.
virtually no chance you’ll be able to date Russians if the only language you
can speak is neither English nor Russian. You may check if there’s any Russian
minority to speak of in your country, but most of them will probably speak
English or Russian. You’ll need to at least learn English.
Just to be
clear, the subparagraph is called ‘contradictions’ because calling them
‘issues’ would imply there’s something wrong with having a mentality unique for
lots of unique traits about Russian people you might not be comfortable with,
in certain situations:
pretty grim on average. Women, actually, are less so,
especially in private. But in any case, sometimes they can be very depressive
and even emotionless because emotions aren’t something you’re encouraged to
share with people around. It’s a cold Northern country, all of them are pretty
much like this. You may not be very comfortable if you’re, on the contrary,
people very much like to judge and jump to conclusions. You
could tell if you ever visited the Russian side of the Internet. It’s not
necessarily the first thing you’ll notice them do offline, but you should be
ready for it in a relationship;
-They may be
very rude for seemingly no reason, so be
prepared for it. Grow a thicker skin, because people there won’t wait to give
you a mouthful if you do something
out of ordinary;
-Russian people work a lot. You may
disagree because you’ve likely only seen them drunk on the videos and in the
Internet, but that’s how it is. The drinking problems are often caused by
burning out at work. So, if you really aren’t into working hard, your schedules
will be quite different
In the end,
you’ll have to see for yourself if you and your girlfriend aren’t compatible in
some sense. It’s easy to speak of the entire people as of ‘average’, but chances
are, your girlfriend will only have some of these problems (if any at
You may not
even need to go to Russia, because there are many Russian communities across
the World. You may also not need to worry about being compatible, because
people sometimes adapt very quickly to each other.
is it. If you aren’t satisfied with the answers, you may check out some of the other
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